{"id":2382,"date":"2016-03-17T10:24:58","date_gmt":"2016-03-17T09:24:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lionel-thevenard.com\/?p=2382"},"modified":"2016-04-06T11:54:46","modified_gmt":"2016-04-06T10:54:46","slug":"our-emotions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lionel-thevenard.fr\/?p=2382&lang=en","title":{"rendered":"Our emotions &#8211; Unpopular yet our allies"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\u00ab\u00a0I am too emotional\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0I am always angry\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0I cry out of nothing\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0I am too sensitive\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0I feel nothing\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0I don&rsquo;t want to feel\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0it&rsquo;s a weakness !\u00a0\u00bb, &#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Do you relate to your emotions as \u00ab\u00a0too much\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0not enough\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0none\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0not the right ones\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0not at the right time\u00a0\u00bb, &#8230;<\/p>\n<p>If this sounds familiar to you one way or the other, then it may be that you are looking at your emotions as a burden rather than as allies !<\/p>\n<p>Yet, as human beings, emotions are basically <strong>Physiology<\/strong>. Since we all have the same\u00a0physiology, we all have the <strong>same emotions<\/strong> !<\/p>\n<p>Let&rsquo;s say that our heart beats faster, our hands are sweaty (or cold), we feel cold, we feel like paralyzed or want to flee ? We are <strong>Scared<\/strong>. If an injustice is committed to our detriment, if an attack is made on our physical, spiritual or identity territory, then we can be <strong>Angry<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>All these\u00a0<strong>perceptions<\/strong> and <strong>emotions<\/strong> are <strong>reactions<\/strong> to certain situations.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Fear, Anger, Joy, Sadness<\/strong> and their associates Shame, Disgust, Happiness, Grief: what are they inside us ?<\/p>\n<p>Basically, they are valuable Information about what&rsquo;s happening inside us and help us react:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Anger<\/strong> restores our boundaries, our borders with the outside: it helps us being <strong>Free<\/strong>.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Fear<\/strong> gives us a warning about an immediate danger and helps us choose between fighting, fleeing or freezing: t helps us being <strong>secure<\/strong>.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Joy<\/strong> is be shared and <strong>connects<\/strong> me to others.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Sadness \/ Grief<\/strong> helps us say Good Bye, cry in someone&rsquo;s arms, it is a step of the <strong>mourning<\/strong> process we have to go through sometimes.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Now it may all go wrong: intensity is too high and overwhelming, I am sad instead of being angry, I am angry instead of\u00a0being understanding, I show nothing, I feel nothing, &#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Well, therapy is just there to restore the balance, to feel what&rsquo;s <strong>appropriate<\/strong> and <strong>proportionate<\/strong> in a situation, each of us in our original way ! and accept that our emotions <em>Help us<\/em> be very much human &#8230; ourselves.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00ab\u00a0I am too emotional\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0I am always angry\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0I cry out of nothing\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0I am too sensitive\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0I feel nothing\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0I don&rsquo;t want to feel\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0it&rsquo;s a weakness !\u00a0\u00bb, &#8230; Do you relate to your emotions as \u00ab\u00a0too much\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0not enough\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0none\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0not the right ones\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0not at the right time\u00a0\u00bb, &#8230; If this sounds [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":2176,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[134],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2382","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-news"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/www.lionel-thevenard.fr\/wp-content\/uploads\/tristesse.jpg","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lionel-thevenard.fr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2382","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lionel-thevenard.fr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lionel-thevenard.fr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lionel-thevenard.fr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lionel-thevenard.fr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2382"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.lionel-thevenard.fr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2382\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lionel-thevenard.fr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/2176"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.lionel-thevenard.fr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2382"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lionel-thevenard.fr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2382"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.lionel-thevenard.fr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2382"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}